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Porn is Evil by Its-An-Inferno Porn is Evil by Its-An-Inferno
Ah, this has been a controversial one. Let me clarify:

Every relationship deserves a level of transparency. If you or your partner watches porn it should be known to one another and discussed. Obviously people should know what someone's stance is on it, right? I wouldn't go as far to call it as bad as "cheating" but to lie to someone about it who may very well be okay with it is still a certain level of dishonesty. Hell, some people may even just be too embarrassed to mention it. 

Still, my main point in making this stamp oh so long ago was that being cheated on in the most literal sense (your partner is physically intimate with someone else) can not be as bad, or worse than, them watching porn and touching themselves. To me that idea just doesn't make sense. I know girls who found out their boyfriends watched porn and broke up with them for it. No conversation, no talking about it, just broke up, called them a cheater, and left. What sense does that make? It's something that can easily be discussed before reacting to impulse.

Porn of course brings about many discussions (psychological effects, sexism, abuse etc.) which I previously got into but will not on this stamp because frankly, it's not about that. Feel free to talk about it below though.

Healthy sexual gratification is normal and you shouldn't make someone feel sick and dirty for doing it. 
Porn addiction, sex addiction, paraphilias, and other sexual disorders are VERY REAL, however. If you know someone who you suspect to be suffering from it, seek out help and open up a non-judgmental, sympathetic conversation with them about it.

Just because someone watches/reads pornographic material doesn't mean that they are putting their partner up to that level of standard or expectation. If you feel insecure, talk to them about it. Healthy adults and couples have no problem separating fantasy from reality. 

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you feel like it's cheating or not. Your relationship, your boundaries. At the very least it's worth talking about before you blow up or play the blame game.

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tultsi93 Featured By Owner Nov 2, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
I watch Alaska Haunting. So that probably means I'm a Satanist! xDDD
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orphically Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2016
I have to object to this on a tiny level. Cheating is defined however the people in the relationship wish to define it. I have seen people in open-relationships where they permit their partner(s) to have sexual relations with others and don't consider it infidelity. There are relationships where people are entirely monogamous and have made it clear and definitive to their significant other that they wouldn't appreciate their partner having sexual relations with people. There are, of course, people in relationships that find masturbation about someone to be perfectly fine, as long as the person isn't indulging in sexual activity with their object of arousal. People that don't appreciate their significant other(s) watching sexually explicit material to masturbate also exist, and they define it within their boundaries of cheating. All of these are perfectly fine if everyone is consenting and agrees to it beforehand. What isn't fine is deducing what you consider is and isn't infidelity. If my partner decides to watch porn to arouse themselves, I honestly do not care, and I would do the same if I wanted to; but my point is, you can't expect everybody to behave the same way. Although, that anonymous person who wrote that is just idiotic, pathetically funny at most. 
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Its-An-Inferno Featured By Owner Aug 18, 2016  Student General Artist
Thank you for your comment! This stamp is actually really old and I've updated my views on the topic. I've clarified that the important part of this matter is transparency and discussion with your partner.
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Sp0ttedTiger Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2016
Oh, and as far as the whole: "It hurts nobody" rant goes, where is your evidence? Porn you've watched yourself plus your own assumptions? How about we listen to actual actors' producers' and researchers' side of the story; yes, some actors like it, but as for others...: 

www.thepinkcross.org/porn-star-confessions

pornharms.com/porn-stars-behin…





fightthenewdrug.org/the-four-d…

fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-f…

globalnews.ca/news/1232726/por…


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Sp0ttedTiger Featured By Owner Edited Mar 21, 2016
So you would have no problem whatsoever if your girlfriend/boyfriend sexted other people, shared naked videos of themselves, and fantasized about others, so long as they never made physical contact?
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2015
If watching porn makes you a cheater, then watching horror films makes you a murderer.
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Kaptain-Klovers Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2016
OLD COMMENT BUT OH MY GOD I LOVE THIS COMMENT
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2016
OMG SO WHAT IT'S STILL AWESOME DESPITE IT'S AGE
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supersonicfanactic Featured By Owner Nov 4, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Lol..
Nice one
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fuckades Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2015  Student Writer
I hate the double standards, too. Like, I watch porn (occasionally) without having to think of my partner; and that mean I cheat. I'm simply engaging in a fetish or something of the sort because I am permitted the right to. Though masturbation is better when my partner helps -
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brihanna25 Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2015
And yet no one says Jack shit if a woman masturbates to that stuff!!??
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brihanna25 Featured By Owner Aug 3, 2015
The comment from the anonymous women made me want to literally laugh,scream,and punch my fucking tablet!

Her "intelligence " is showing. ( ̄∀ ̄)
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Commander-Dominic Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2015
Ugh now some people are saying every form of porn is rape.Facepalm 
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glovannas Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2016  Student Digital Artist
Seriously?
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Commander-Dominic Featured By Owner Mar 8, 2016
Yes, there's one Christian on here that thinks all porn is rape.
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PoisonShallEvanesce Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2015
Which in every account is false. Even the supposed "rape" scenes are consensual. If it were actual rape, it would be INSTANTLY flagged, removed, and used as evidence against the rapist moronic enough to post it online. All at the very moment that it was discovered.  
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Commander-Dominic Featured By Owner Oct 6, 2015
:iconthisplz:
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Commander-Dominic Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2015
So true.
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kyrtuck Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
It isn't cheating if youre single.
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2015
It isn't cheating, period.
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kyrtuck Featured By Owner Sep 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Only if you and your partner have a vocal, open understanding.
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2015
If someone thinks it's cheating, then that person who thinks that needs a better understanding.
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orphically Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2016
I have to object to this on a tiny level. Cheating is defined however the people in the relationship wish to define it. I have seen people in open-relationships where they permit their partner(s) to have sexual relations with others and don't consider it infidelity. There are relationships where people are entirely monogamous and have made it clear and definitive to their significant other that they wouldn't appreciate their partner having sexual relations with people. There are, of course, people in relationships that find masturbation about someone to be perfectly fine, as long as the person isn't indulging in sexual activity with their object of arousal. People that don't appreciate their significant other(s) watching sexually explicit material to masturbate also exist, and they define it within their boundaries of cheating. All of these are perfectly fine if everyone is consenting and agrees to it beforehand. What isn't fine is deducing what you consider is and isn't infidelity. If my partner decides to watch porn to arouse themselves, I honestly do not care, and I would do the same if I wanted to; but my point is, you can't expect everybody to behave the same way.
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kyrtuck Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Jesus thinks that just a lustful glance at a hot woman who's not your wife is enough to qualify for an eye gouging.  for in his heart he's already commitited adultry, and its better to lose an eye, than lose one's soul to the pits of hell

I'm nicer.  I say it takes several hours of staring at hot women youre not married to, and without your wife's okay for it to qualify as cheating.
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2015
Needing an image to relieve yourself doesn't make the user attracted to the person personally in the image. It's the idea of the act, not the people in the videos themselves. Times have changed.
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kyrtuck Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I thought you were only supposed to relieve yourself on the people your committed to, and neding images was just for singles.
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 10, 2015
What if that person isn't in the mood to help you relieve yourself?
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penls666 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Porn is just to help someone get aroused, it's not sleeping with the waitress at IHop while your wife is out at a late business meeting.
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ch0co-pudding Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2015  Professional General Artist
LOL porn is cheating....yeah, thats like saying it would be the computer chair's fault if you were overweight. I've never had any gripes with my man watching porn, I even watch it, hell we even watch it together sometimes! LOL!  I actually know some girls (not going to say women) in my entourage who go absolutely apeshit about their bf's watching porn. Which is honestly such a hypocrite move, because they likely masturbate themselves, so why try and control your man from doing something natural?
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penls666 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Porn is just to help someone get aroused, it's not sleeping with the waitress at IHop

while your wife is out at a late business meeting, it's not cheating kiddo.

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orphically Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2016
I have to object to this on a tiny level. Cheating is defined however the people in the relationship wish to define it. I have seen people in open-relationships where they permit their partner(s) to have sexual relations with others and don't consider it infidelity. There are relationships where people are entirely monogamous and have made it clear and definitive to their significant other that they wouldn't appreciate their partner having sexual relations with people. There are, of course, people in relationships that find masturbation about someone to be perfectly fine, as long as the person isn't indulging in sexual activity with their object of arousal. People that don't appreciate their significant other(s) watching sexually explicit material to masturbate also exist, and they define it within their boundaries of cheating. All of these are perfectly fine if everyone is consenting and agrees to it beforehand. What isn't fine is deducing what you consider is and isn't infidelity. If my partner decides to watch porn to arouse themselves, I honestly do not care, and I would do the same if I wanted to; but my point is, you can't expect everybody to behave the same way.
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ch0co-pudding Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Professional General Artist
If you're replying to my comment....you stopped reading real quick didn't you? Please fully read something before replying, kiddo.
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penls666 Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I read the full thing.
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ch0co-pudding Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Professional General Artist
Well then, you didn't understand it. I'm at the same stand-point that porn isn't cheating...dude, seriously?
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TheElectricStar Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
XD I dont care if my bf watches it and . yh But i's defo's not cheating ..
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Barricade9-1-1 Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
i'm not so sure is right or wrong. but is not like you are doing that person. you are just reading a book or a movie of it.
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Yeah my bf made it pretty clear he wouldn't want me watching porn and masturbating to the thought of being fucked by another man.. He is a MAN :O .I am sure there are a hell of a lot of other men who would take issue with their girlfriends or wives masturbating to another man.. Whether or not porn is cheating depends entirely on the people in the relationship. If your spouse is not comfortable with you watching porn, if you sit down and talk about it, and still it really hurts them, and you continue to watch it, you are saying porn is more important to you than your relationship with them... If watching porn while in a relationship is so important to you, than find someone who doesn't mind it. Just because porn makes someone insecure,or that they do not want their partner looking at it, does not make them a 'crazy bitch' it just means they have a different view about what it means to be in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend about the issues you may have with porn, and there is nothing wrong with you if you want a partner who does not look at porn. I do not have an issue with porn, heck i watched porn before i was in a serious relationship. When my boyfriend expressed his feelings about it, i stopped because he means more to me than porn. There is nothing wrong with two people in a relationship watching porn as long as they are both okay with it, but it shouldn't be forced down someones throat if it makes them uncomfortable. 

ALSO 

You saying he 'needs to satisfy himself somehow' is saying that the person in his relationship is not capable of satisfying his needs, you are also implying that without porn your man will cheat and that porn is simply a better/only alternative.You are degrading men by assuming they are all horn dogs and couldn't possibly be satisfied in a monogamous relationship without watching porn, and women need to bow down and accept this or expect their man to cheat. 
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ViscountDevil Featured By Owner Sep 8, 2015
I wish I could feature this comment here, but this isn't my deviation.
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XXXataktoulaXXX Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2014  Hobbyist
*highfive*
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DeoFairyNOL Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2014  Hobbyist
No words -.-
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Naorina Featured By Owner Oct 1, 2014
You know what really sucks? I wish I could ignore the whole porn issue, but have yet to really convince myself to be okay with it. Don't know why, but the whole thing about acting on sexual attraction to other women just upsets me. I call it an act because, yes.. masturbation is a sexual act, not physically doing anything with the woman on the screen doesn't make it not so. At least, this is how I feel and the first time I found out about my boyfriends porn activities, I went silent and cried for 2-3 days. This was a couple of years ago though and am coping with the whole thing pretty well now, yet I still wouldn't say I'm okay with it. Maybe sometime in the future I'll be able to change that, but for the time being I'm actually pretty envious of women who are not only okay with it, but support it even. In the end I felt that it wasn't worth ruining such a great and long term relationship that I had (and still have). 
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ashvanity Featured By Owner Sep 15, 2014
My ex boyfriend barely ever wanted to have sex. Like, once a week, if that. And then I find him watching porn.

yeah, cuz that's normal. 

I do consider porn cheating, but I completely understand if others don't. I don't need a relationship, and if every guy in the world looks at porn, that's fine. I can be just as happy by myself. The real problem is people thinking they NEED a relationship so badly that they go bat shit crazy trying to make the one they have perfect.
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Fun-dragoness Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2014
This subject still confuses me.  I'm not sure how to feel when I'm in a relationship and my boyfriend looks at porn (sometimes even I kinda feel like looking at porn but I avoid it >_<) Maybe porn can be good as long as they be careful NOT to get addicted ._.
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Honey4514 Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2014
This is fucking amazing.
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Artezna Featured By Owner Aug 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Would you get mad if your girl saw a "hot" guy on the street and took a pic of him and went home and started masturbating to that pic? How is that different from her just walking up to him and asking to have sex with him? It is cheating because in your heart you are giving your intimacy to another person. You are supposed to only have feeling toward the person you are with and express whether it be hugs, kisses, or SEX with your partner and them only. Obviously its your relationship and your terms, but if you actually think about it, it still counts as cheating. 
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Honey4514 Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2014
Wow. You are fucked up. Go to hell, you bastard.
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Artezna Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I am? What planet are you on? You just told me to go to hell. 
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